Ladies, what is it about marriage?

I'm curious to know why marriage is so important to a relationship?

I personally understand the process:

1. Date

2. Exclusive Boyfriend/Girlfriend

3. Fiance

4. Marriage

5. ?

Why do so many people feel it necessary to label a relationship?

Would you be satisfied to have a relationship with someone who loved you and was completely faithful to you without being married?

and I've all ready heard "well if he loves me he should want to marry me," maybe there are some people that don't believe in marriage but do believe in love and commitment.


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What Girls Said 1

  • Because when women feel that a guy really loves her, she wants to start a life with him, like a family. people usually start families when they are married right?

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    • But isn't it possible to have a life and family with someone without being married? Does society pressure people into believing that marriage is necessary to have loving and committed relationship?

    • Yes. It's weird not to be married and yet be a family. That's what most women think.

    • I agree. Plus marriage is supposed to be the ultimate commitment. I want to be with someone who will eventually love me enough to commit to me for life.

What Guys Said 1

  • I think it has a lot to do with insecurity, and I think that insecurity is well founded. Regardless of one's personal beliefs, if a girl wants to get married and you don't, there's going to be a problem. When you replace a belief system with nihilistic philosophy, you're asking for it. Basically that refusal becomes a big "but" at the end of your feelings. "I love you and am committed...but I won't marry you." How can a girl not be disturbed? I'd be worried. You're placing a social ritual above her, and, at that, refusal of a social ritual.

    A lot of women dream of their wedding day - they look forward to it and would be disappointed if it couldn't happen. I can understand that. It might feel like failing.

    As for labeling a relationship, well I've read way too many questions here about "exclusivity" to be puzzled about why someone wants clarity. Some folks think it's okay to date multiple people at once as long as you aren't "exclusive." So if a girl wants a real relationship, apparently these days she has to indicate that.

    As to whether society pressures people...well, heck yeah. That's a norm and pressuring people into conforming behavior is part of society's raison d'etre. Marriage is something that has been passed down through the ages because it works. It keeps the society in order, keeps it whole. Not every social function exists to cause trouble; most exist to create stability.

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