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I am married.
I knew that I was marrying the right person because I could entirely be myself around him and his feelings never seemed to waver. He respected me and encouraged me to pursue things that I wanted to do.
I met my husband when I was 22, I am now 29. We are different people than we were when we met and because we continue to grow, we continuously need to adapt. My husband is a wonderful man, but it is extremely difficult to be satisfied by one person - emotionally and physically (I am not referring to sexuality)- for even ten years. So, if you realize that your partner will not be everything to you and you seek out other people/activities/employment that can help fill whatever part of your social being might be missing then, yes, marriage can last. If you expect otherwise, it will not or if it does it most likely will not be a happy marriage. We have had a million trials, I have made mistakes and so has he, but I trust that we'll be together when we're 80, raking leaves or some other geriatric activity. You can't go into marriage thinking otherwise.
I one sense, yes, marriage might be outdated -- at least in the "traditional " sense. There is a lot of room for error and drifting in today's world, but I think there always has been, it has just been under-wraps (is that a word?). Do I ever think there will be a time when humans don't seek a life partner of the opposite sex? Never. It is the most rewarding thing there is.1