I am having an affair and thinking about ending it. It has been fun for the past 2 years but its not fun anymore. The problem is I am really falling hard for him and even becoming jealous of his wife. And I hate the way it makes me feel. So my question is should I tell him the truth that I'm ending it because I love him and just can't Handel it any more or do I just make something up like I think we need to focus on our marriages? Our family's are very close so just giving him the quiet treatment till he gets the hint is not an option.
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Look I will not judge you on your deeds, you had your reasons and I'm sure you weighed in the pros and cons for the affair.
It wasn't the best of judgement for an affair especially with a close friend give the repercussions of both families and YOUR own social lives if word got out.
Maybe I'm talking out of my ass but here is my opinion.
Now you wanting to tell him is in the vain hope he feels the same about you, but deep down you know he doesn't feel the same, to him you two are just having fun.
If you go ahead and tell him, I guarantee the answer he will give you is "wait, I can't leave my family now, things are complicated will do it later... but LETS CONTINUE SEEING EACH OTHER"
So best advice is not to see him, concentrate on your husband, try to think why you are not attracted to him anymore, has your life gone routine, etc.
If problems are irreversible in your marriage you could either leave or find another lover to get over this one...
But be careful your husband and/or your lover might not appreciate it if you find another lover.