Does anyone else have female friends that as soon as they get married and pop out a kid, they revert to the traditional 1950s housewife role? They drop everything they had going for them and settle into this role. Does it make you feel sad for them?
I've found this to be the case with some of my friends. Mostly because they had a whole hell of a lot going for them. But as a friend, I'm somewhat disappointed in them that they cut their potential short and decided to turn their lives into such a subservient role (in their cases, that's what it is).
I'm not knocking marriage or parenthood, but I'm a firm believer in going out in life and getting you done before getting into either if you can help it. Getting all your hopes and dreams taken care of, if possible. Two friends in particular are smart and were doing well in school. But they decided to let estrogen take over, let their boyfriends consume their lives, and fast tracked into marriage and kids, all while dropping school and everything else. One just finished a trade school (yay for her, she's at least trying now) and another remains jobless and a stay at home mom, popping out children.
I think also, knowing all the things that opened up for women with the women's movement and all that, it can be kind of annoying as a fellow female. Some women know right off the bat that they just want to be a stay at home mom, which is fine. I just think it's kind of sad that you have women with so much potential, on the right track to go do something in life, and the second the right d*** shows up, they revert to the traditional role. With a couple of my friends in particular, I think their lack of self esteem comes into play. They're settling.
But it just baffles me. We're in an era where women have more opportunity and chances to succeed. Yet you have women like this who go from so much potential to the little housewife. ...why? Anyone else noticed this about some women? Is it esteem? Is it the idea of just letting the guy work while they don't have to? What do you think?
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Some woman like that role, and that's fine, you shouldn't knock someones lifestyle choice it fulfils them and makes them happy.
What bugs me is that I've worked with a lot if mothers who aren not content house wifes, so they are constantly torn between their careers and their kids, either they end up essentially doing two full time jobs (mother + day job) or they give up the career/work, to raise their kids.
...but these things are never issues for men, you never see men sacrificing a fulfilling career to stay home and raise kids, you rarely see men working full time coming home and cooking dinner every night or worrying about how to balance career and home life.2