if this question sounds familiar is because I already asked it last night but forgot to put a poll. so here it goes...
i wanna have kids but I do not want to get marry, because I believe marriage is insanity and every human deserves their own space and freedom. so I wanna know how many women are willing to have children without getting marry and the once that see marriage as a requirement.
Most Helpful Girl
Absolutely. I will not have children without being married first. Not because of any religious beliefs or anything like that, but because I want to be sure that my children will have a solid, secure environment to grow up in, with loving parents who are DEVOTED to each other. My goal in life is not simply to reproduce, so children can wait until I am married. Marriage should not be a constricting thing where your freedom is taken away. In a good marriage, the two people DO respect the others' space and freedom, to the extent that they are still faithful and devoted to each other. I don't understand what's constricting about it, and if someone is in the mindset that marriage is constricting, they certainly should not have kids, because kids are DEFINITELY a constriction, much more so than marriage if you're with the right person. Having kids is huge and I would not be able to do it on my own. So, I would need the security of knowing that my partner is committed to my well-being (demonstrated by marriage) and will stick with me in raising the children. Not to mention modeling a healthy relationship for the kids0
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