So, I've been dating this guy for awhile, known him for years and recently got engaged. I love him more than anything but unfortunately my mom doesn't and sadly I think it's because he's black and I'm white.
I feel stupid even asking this question since I'm 20 years old... But I feel like my mom is controlling my life. She has no idea we're engaged, she gives him dirty looks and has no respect for him whatsoever. I'm not close with my mom so I can't talk to her about it.
I'm scared to hold his hand and even hug him in front of her just for the simple fact of doing so will set her in a pissed off mood all week. I don't know what to do... but I think it's pathetic when I can't even hug my fiance just because my mom doesn't like him.
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You need to be open and honest with your mom and let her know how much you care for this guy and that you plan on spending the rest of your life with him. But you shouldn't let your mom's ignorance be the cause of you being unhappy. Let her know how you feel. Try to make her understand that he makes you happy and it should have to be based upon his race. You love him for him and nothing else. Ask her how'd she feel if you had children with this man would she not claim them because they are half black. But also realize that you are 20 yrs old and you are old enough to make your own decisions and you shouldn't have to get the approval of your mom because it's your life not hers.