I'm about to marry a guy who I've dated for about several months. Through out the months he told me his stories of the women he treated like crab and some of the women who treated him like crab, for example his first wife who left him after only being married for a few months.He is one of those guys who is know and have a bit of history with women.For some reason he told me he really care for me and I was different so I moved him in.I'm a harding working woman with a few kidsI and a nice crib.I don't know whether he's serious or not but he seem serious..To be quite honest I have recieve calls regarding him from his ex-women not only that his female family have close friends who he dealt with before me .Also his male cousins who he hang out with they stay in the bars.So,I'm starting to fall for him deeply and accepted the proposal.My Question is should I have accepted the proposal?I'm concerned because although I care a lot aabout him,Him telling me that he left his woman in order to be with me is raising a flag.I even ran into the chick and curse her out ,telling her he don't want you he want me! He bought the ring which makes me think he maybe serious.Will he do this to me after were married?What do you guys and girls think will happen if I go through with this.
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You shouldn't have moved him in so soon if you have children.
I don't see how this relationship can work if you don't really know the guy. Why the rush? Would it be so terrible to take a year or two to get to know him before you make such a serious commitment? And your children - how do they feel about you marrying a man you hardly know yourself. How would they feel about you divorcing the same man? What kind of example are you setting for them?
Honestly, it seems to me that you are just desperate for a husband and you're willing to take any guy that comes along and asks you first. I think you are mistaking your relief of not being single anymore as having feelings for a guy with a questionable history with women. Questionable everything.
Deep down inside you know this isn't right for you - because you wouldn't be having doubts about accepting the proposal. I think you should wait until your feelings develop further than "starting to fall" and "caring" into love before you get married.
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