I'm a 36 year old male with a 27 year old wife. Lately I've been hitting on a girl from work who is 22. Me and my wife haven't had sex in almost a year. I love my wife ,but I just don't know if I'm in love with her. I need some help?
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I think you and your wife must be having serious communication problems. You should attempt to fix it. If you truly love this woman, you will try to make it work. Don't throw it away for some young coworker for a few minutes of lust that could end your marriage. Have you tried taking your wife on a date to a beautiful restaurant, drinking some wine, slow dancing with her and telling her how beautiful she is and you really want to make love to her. Sometimes women need romance. Just because you're married doesn't mean you shouldn't take her on dates. Marriage isn't easy and you shouldn't just give up on it and look elsewhere and risk being a typical cheating husband who goes for younger woman. No one will sympathize with you even if you haven't had sex in a year. Cheating in a marriage is a serious taboo and once you do it...it will never be forgotten.
However, it's fair to say the problem could lie with her too so that's why the communication barrier needs to be opened. You guys need to talk and figure out why you're not having sex. You should tell her how much it bothers you and how you want things to be different. Maybe she is going through something or is feeling insecure these days. You need to find out, talk to her about it and find a solution that works for the both of you. If all else fails then take the honorable route and consider divorce. Don't go behind someone's back and cheat on them. You'll just end up hurting her and you might even lose her forever.1