Do you think a wedding is a waste of money?

[MissLeslie]

My boyfriend told me he wouldn't get married in the future because getting married is too much pressure and a waste of money, he said why waste thousands of dollars on a wedding when it can be wasted in some vacations.

I do want to get married someday, but am I wasting my time here?

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I don't care for an expensive wedding, all I want is to get married some day either in city hall or a small ceremony with friends & family. I'll talk to him and if he still feels the same then it won't work out.

Thanks all.

[taster]

"Waste of money" is not the same as "Waste ot time" My wife of 16 years and I got married by the JP at 8AM on a Friday morning...I do believe that weddings are a waste of money..but not a waste of time...I probably would have wasted money on a wedding had she wanted one but she had already wasted money on a wedding with her first husband and he had fainted twice during the vows causing her extreme embarrassment & humiliation...a friend of mine has 3 daughters and he is going to give them their choice of an expensive wedding or cash in pocket..i know which I would take!...(:

[UnoriginalUsername]

It's a waste of time and money imo, but I would do it for a girl if I loved her. Seriously though, why do you need to bow to the government to express your love for another person? Why throw money away on fancy clothes and scenery when your love for each other should be enough? Why do you need the festivities to be able to commit to each other forever? Marriage seems unnecessary.

[Red_Raconteur]

I do think weddings are more expensive than they should be. I don't know why the dresses cost thousands of dollars and the food is nearly as much, but if you're planning a wedding you don't have much choice unless you want to sew your own dress and cook the food yourself.

In all, I still think a wedding is worth it because it's a special day I'll get to look back on for the rest of my life. I'll try to do my wedding on the cheap, but I'll still have one.

I'm sure if he really loves you his mind will change. He's still young. If not, then maybe he isn't the one.

[MissLeslie]

He's not that young he's 28.

Thnx :)

[Red_Raconteur]

Oh, sorry. I assumed he was in the same age range as you. He's relatively young, but at that age marriage should be on his mind. I'd say give him a few years and try to persuade him gently.

[musicbrain5]

The ceremony is a waste of money. You say you're wasting your time with him, but if you want the huge wedding ceremony more than the marriage, then don't get married.

Wedding ceremonies are a waste of money. Your boyfriend is right. Save that money, go down to city hall or a registry office to sign the papers (because that's all it takes), maybe have a little party afterward, and then use the money you saved for a really nice honeymoon or vacation later on. That's what my parents did many years ago.

[musicbrain5]

You could also use that money for a down payment on a house, instead of a vacation.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

If you want to get married then you are wasting your time because he's telling you right now he does not want to marry u. Its not that he said he wasn't ready for marriage now, he explained why he would not get married at all. What is going to happen X years down the line when you are really ready for marriage and a future and he still feels the same way?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

thanks for ba

[Darkfairie17]

It depends on the person's values. Some people see it as frivolous, whereas others think its something that creates lasting memories.

Its a time for people to celebrate their love with their family. I know for me I don't get to see my family much, so having them experience my wedding helps them see how I am doing and allows them to be a part of our (my future husband and I's) big day. Other than a wedding, some of my relatives would probably never meet my future husband, just because I don't see much of the family as some of them are just not really close to my immediate family.

I still want to get married someday :)

[taster]

"Married" does not necessarily mean a "wedding"..or did you mean that you "still want a wedding some day"?

[0202vogue]

Did you tell him your opinion on weddings? He seems a bit close minded for a 28 year old. I agree indeed that weddings, especially some, can be really really expensive...but you don't need to have such an expensive wedding. make it a small intimate one, friends and family only, at home or at city hall then a restaurant, no fancy prices. He seems to not be afraid of weddings but marriage itself.

[selfishstars]

I think weddings are a waste of money.

Are you wasting your time? That depends on how important it is for you to get married. Talk to him about it. If he would not get married under any circumstances and getting married is that important to you, then you obviously have different goals, so maybe you should find someone who has similar goals to you.

[lace1228]

Weddings don't need to be expensive to be nice. Getting married isn't about the wedding but the marriage that lasts a life time. I don't plan on having a huge expensive wedding when I get married. I rather put the money on a down payment on a house. The wedding shouldn't leave you debit afterward. It is a celebration of two people making the commitment to be together for a life time.

[Anonymous]

I think destination weddings are THE way to go. That or what I did which was a justice of the peace wedding and a small intimate party with 30-50 friends and family reception a couple weeks later where you leave to go to your honeymoon after the reception.

a huge wedding is a waste of money *unless* you just have endless amounts of money to spend then it's not...then it's helping the economy and giving money to workers (florists/rental shops ect) who then go on and spend it somewhere else helping others.

[sweet_18]

Oh hell no. A wedding is spectacle in itself. Plus it is a very special and sacred ceremony. If my boyfriend said that I'd break up with him lol.

As for your boyfriend. I smell something fishy. That's probably just his excuse for not wanting to commit cause that's a real sorry excuse.

[JayCutler]

big fancy wedding yes...the small and regular ones are more appealing now adays

[goflipaburger]

It's only a waste if the person who establishes what is "valuable" sees it as a waste.

It really depends on the person.

[taster]

Of course it is/does...<3...(:

[goflipaburger]

:)

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

there are financial benefits to getting married that the government supplies like conjoined accounting and such and such.

[Anonymous]

i kinda think so. I would rather have a small, cheap wedding and an amazing, long, expensive honeymoon. your funds are limited afterall

[Anonymous]

wait until you're divorced, then we'll talk about how much of a waste of money the all freaking thing was lol

[Moloch]

Waste of time and money.

[Moloch]

Weddings are a waste of time and money, not marriage.