I am in my early thirties and have a 7 year old daughter living at home. I reunited with a past flame and we are very committed to each other. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that we will eventually get married. He has been living with his mom in a one bedroom apartment while he gets his finances in order and because it is so uncomfortable for two people in a tiny one bedroom apartment, he stays with me frequently. At first, he would wake up very early and run outside to ring the doorbell to pretend that he just arrived to have breakfast with us (my daughter and I). But this got old very quicky- especially since she wakes up at 6:00 every morning. So now she knows that he has been spending the night and does not ask anything. This is the only man other than her father (I was married to him for 9 years) that she has seen me with. I have not explained anything to her and feel a horrible guilt as a mother and parent. My guilt mainly comes from my strict Catholic upbringing. Plus, I don't want her to think that this is the "NORM", shacking up before marriage. I need honest pros and cons please.
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No. If you are so sure of him and your future then wait for him to get himself together. If this for whatever reason doe not work out it will not be good for your young and impressionable daughter. Your duty and responsibility to her should be first.
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