I met this woman on-line 2 days ago. We met, had a drink, and then I just popped the question. "well, do you want to marry, then?"
and she looked completely shocked, as if I had committed some heinous crime. I know I can be a bit impulsive at times, but we had been talking literally 2 hours, and I felt that she embodied everything I look for in a woman (with the exception of slightly oversized breasts) And I felt like one of her nipples was staring at me. But her eyes are quite wonderful, and her ideas on the subject of "philosophy of mind" was quite fascinating. You see, I teach the subject.
I could tell she was quite attracted to me. Most women are. And yet, when I mention marriage, and possibly having children (3 to be precise, 1 girl 2 boys) they become positively restless, as if my presence is a mild, yet debilitating cancer. What to do? Any advice would be wonderfully appreciated.
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Regardless of anything else, you are moving way too fast for any woman in her right mind to be okay with. If she had said, "yes", I would've had her shipped to a looney bin for a full mental evaluation. That doesn't mean it isn't salveageable though, but she needs more time. If she really is the one for you, that means that not only her physical and mental qualities appeal, but you will be okay with doing things more at her pace. If you truly love her, then give her time. Two days is way too soon! That's not to say things can't happen quickly though, a very good friend of mine and her husband have been married for over 13 years now, and they knew each other barely a month when they eloped. Sometimes, things do just click between people, but two days is undeniably too soon. I'm curious what you mean by Sagittarian quality, as I'm a full Sag myself. I think I may be misunderstanding a bit, because the Sagittarius is notorious for not wanting to be caged or pinned down in any way. In a relationship, a Sagittarius is immensely happy until they feel they are being squashed or shoehorned into something, and generally at that point they flit away on nimble feet into the next encounter in their life. This isn't to say that as a Sag, marriage isn't an option, and this sign is notoriously impulsive and spontaneous, -however- keep in mind that the Sag will only be happy as long as they feel they are there because they are wanted and appreciated, and sometimes needed, but never kept. The caged bird will never sing. If this gal is a Sag, be aware that even if she's head-over-heels with you, saying yes to marriage is going to be extremely difficult this early on, due to the "greener pastures" philosophy, and the fact that being wed is being caged.1