We are together 3,5 years, I love him and he is good person, responsible, sweet,i can trust him. But one thing what bothers me is how he stares at other girls, when we go somewhere or in tv.. he has always wallpaper with beautiful girls, videos with dancing girls on computer and I heard him few times talking with friends about how hot is any girl.. He told also I'm not most beautiful girl but it doesn't matter for him.. maybe I should be happy but I'm not , I don't know now if I want marry this boy, but I love him and he's caring - maybe I won't meet anyone better. Soon we will have to organize marriage, so if I want break up I must decide it now, tell me what should I do? Don't say to talk with him , because if I try he tells that I argue for sill reasons, are this silly reasons?
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Guys collect images of girls the way photographers gather pictures about sunsets or rain forests or whatever. It actually is a form of art, and loving it by itself is not necessarily bad but can very quickly become bad.
The problem arises is when they get their head twirled in fantasy and even love the girls the images are depicting, rather than just the images themselves. This is a sort of "unfaithful fantasy" so to speak. Gearing the mind this way could lead to unfaithful acts later on.
So how do you know the difference?
The answer is simple. If his girls are posing to be beautiful (naked or not), its fine art. If his girls are involved in sexual acts like touching, groping, intercouse, and so on, its p*rn.
If its p*rn, he has a p*rn problem. If its fine art, then he just likes pictures with female subject matter.
The first is more dangerous than the second, though the second is not above concern, its just the second isn't as good for the type of fantasy life I'm describing and therefore may indicate its lack of existence if its the sole form of imagery he collects.
Telling you that you are not the most beautiful girl is a pretty tactless thing to say without thinking about the consequences of how that would make you feel. Obviously, he is not the most handsome man either - you both have to compete against 2.5 billion people within your own genders. Not everyone can be #1. Its just silly to bring it up though...
If he expresses concern for how you feel about it, even if he is unwilling to give up the stuff, or wishes you were cool with it, then I'd say looking good. If he dismisses it as a petty issue and makes light of your objections, then you have a red flag on your hands.