I got married 18 years ago and it's been a struggle for me to say I love this man. On our wedding day, I had to ask him "how do I look" since I could tell is wasn't in awe. He said "you look fine". I should have known then. I weighed 120 lbs 5ft 6 and was very attractive. I still stay in shape and look & weigh the same now, kept my figure, take care of myself etc, try to be good mom & wife. When first married, I would dress up in se-y outfits and try to get his attention and he would tell me to go get dressed, he wanted to watch the football game on tv.
He has always made me the butt of his jokes to everyone. Puts me down in front of others, tells me that he would find it surprising if someone would ever look at me. He corrects everything I say, controls what I am aloud to spend money on, never follows through on promises he's made to me, let's me cook dinner when he promised to be home and never shows up or calls, only cares about himself during love making (which I do for him 4 or more times a week) Funny how he doesn't think I am attractive but wants to tap it all the time. He has always been condescending and talks to me like I am dirt.
This is just the tip of the iceberg but am I justified to be at the end of my rope? I try and try to do everything to please him but get nothing back emotionally, spiritually, physically.
Am I wrong to be done? I want to be loved and FEEL the love.
Should I end this marriage?
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Have you guys tried marriage counseling? The picture you painted of this guy is very bleak, but he might have unresolved complaints about something you may have overlooked about yourself. I think it is a healthy thing that you are concerned, as some of his behavior is totally unacceptable.
That being said, a professional counselor would be the very FIRST thing I would do if I were in your shoes. You have children, and usually getting a divorce with them around should be your absolute last resort until you've explored other options. I encourage you to take that step.2
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