My husband and I are newlyweds. We did not start living together until married. We bought an amazing house but it needs some work.
He has a controlling sister and she was really causing us MAJOR problems surrounding our wedding. She felt a need for control over us.
It wasn't her wedding, she was included but was not given a chance to control us. So she caused a rift in our relationship. My husband sided with her and this upset and hurt me so deeply. She was very wrong, and all my family and friends agree. I have even seen a marriage counselor and priest about this issue and they also agree. (husband won't go)
So we were still fighting upon moving in and once we moved in he only brought some clothes... says that's all he really has. (not true, he has swimsuit, personal items, gifts, suits, other winter and summer clothe, etc. etc. like anyone else)
Even has a work vehicle and didn't bring that...!
I instantly got so upset and angry. For one thing he did not propose until 10+ years in and then there's the issue now with the inlaws and the specific things his sister did to cause problems... and he's basically not moving in! Those all made me freak out, I'd confront him left and right over this.
Sure, he sleeps there. He goes to his parent's every morning and every night before and after work. Carries on over there and puts no attention into our home.
This has caused major fights. I am so upset and angry that I come home to an empty house, husband is at his parent's for hours... every... single... day... also the fact they are first and not his wife.
He says he doesn't like our house, doesn't feel at home. I don't understand this. He has never tried to make it his home. He says when he comes home he never knows what he will get with me. I tell him, well gee you don't come home to me, you hardly have moved in... you expect me not to say anything? He says my complaints of this have to stop.
I am sick of his lies to get out of moving in, I am sick of this! This never should have been a problem.
It's beautiful out lately, and he's never home. He's not working on the house at all. I don't know what to do. Is this my fault? I just don't know that he'd move in if I didn't say anything about it.
He says this is driving him crazy, he can't sleep and cries all the time and went to the doctor and they suggested anti depressants. He won't get them, he also won't do counseling.
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He has major problems...unfortunately they are also causing you to have major problems...unless you are lying..or withholding information..how could this possibly be your fault? Unless maybe I would question why you stuck with some dingaling who took 10 years to propose?../:...if he cannot get his act together shortly, then I would have the wedding annulled and leave him...in the meantime..*if you have not given up*..I would try every trick in the book to get him into the counseling which he so desperately needs...and he should listen to the song in my link very carefully...):):):