I have a boyfriend online and its been 3 years now. but we haven't seen each other in person but I honestly do love him... I'm 17 turning 18 this October and I'll be in 2nd year college next school year... then suddenly my boyfriend wanted to visit me and he wants us to get married... I said yes I'll marry him! but we have to wait till I graduate but he said he can't wait he explained to me why and it kinda make sense but I don't know what to do now... How would I tell my mom and my dad? they expect so much from me... I sometimes think if I'm really ready... but I don't want to disappoint him
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I think that you should seriously wait. Marriage takes a lot of work and you should know the person before you marry them.
You might think you know this person because you have been dating for 3 years. But you haven't even met this person yet. Sounds to me like this guy is trying to trap you into a relationship in his own country.
You are still so young, you are only 17, wait until you are older and are in a long-term relationship where you actually know the person before you marry them. I know you don't want to hear this but this is a terrible idea!
You don't even know this guy in real life, and it's a terrible idea to get married now just because it's convenient. You should get married because you love someone and because you both are in the stage of your lives where you can have a successful marriage. People are not the same online as they are in real life. And just because you have talked to him over the computer for 3 years doesn't mean he will be the same person. This guy could be 74 years old for all you know or could be a criminal.
He's trying to force you into a marriage that you aren't ready for now and that is a HUGE red flag. Sounds to me like he even doesn't have your best interests in mind.
Also, if he is not living in your country, what are your plans for living arrangements? You are just going to be married to this guy and hopefully get to see him once again? What if this guy is a complete creep and tries to hurt you? How will you get out of a country you have never been to?
There is so much sketchy stuff in this situation. You really shouldn't be marrying this guy. Do your parents even know you have had this online relationship?
Sorry to be so critical, but this is really a bad idea and I hope you don't go through with it. Your parents will be upset when you tell them because as adults, they know this is a terrible idea. You already know this will disappoint them, so why do it?
Go to school, get your education and meet a guy in real life, have a relationship with him, get to know him and then when the time is right for both of you, get married if that is what you both want. Don't just marry this guy because he was being sweet to you over the computer. Any guy can manipulate a girl into thinking he is a swell guy. There is a good chance this guy may not even be who he says he is online, and you are putting yourself in huge danger by marrying him!0