I am having quite a debate with people judging my marriage. I have been with my husband since I was 14..almost 10 years dating and over a year married. People think I am so young and should not be married. I think it's what you both go through in life with the person and how you deal together. Your communication is key. I believe that unlike alcohol and buying smokes..there is no age limit set to fall in love. It just happens. If I had only been dating my husband for 2 years at this age things would be different..but we've been through a lot in 10 years and we work. So my frustration is when people say it's a shame because I am so young and needed more time to grow and ask why are you married at all? It really bothers me..because I see people who have been dating for under 3 years getting married or even in less time.
My question is:
When is the right time to get married? Do you think it is when your 30 and been dating for only 3 years...or 24 and been together for 10 years? Does it matter and explain your opinion please.
I met him at age 14...and been with him for almost 10 years (married over a year) as I turn 24 this Decemeber. Not married at 14. lol.
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I don't think there's a "magic age," when it comes to getting married. My grandma was married at 17, and she's still with my grandpa. They're almost ninety now...
I think that marriage is an issue of maturity. In those days, women were raised to be housewives. Some people are today, and some people just mature faster than others, and have readied themselves to be an adult far sooner than everyone else. How do I judge if someone is mature enough to get ready? If the main focus is "We're just so in love" and trying to throw the most beautiful wedding ever, or running off to elope, or something like that, I argue that the couple is not ready yet. The focus of the marriage, I believe, is to work hard and create a partnership that works, preparing for the future, and truly promising one another to keep the relationship going for the rest of forever. The size/fancy-ness of the wedding will be exciting, for sure, but it shouldn't be the main focus, and running off to get married without parental approval just to spite them is hardly a reason to join your life to someone else's for the rest of eternity! (Now, I understand if there end up being REAL reasons to elope... like if you are getting married for the right reason and have family/friends willing to STOP the wedding or something...) Anyway, the main thing is that younger people typically are so blinded by their infatuation that they think they are so in love they will never have any problems... And once the honeymoon phase wears off, sometimes the "crush" goes away and they are left with a relationship they weren't prepared for. That's why so many young people are getting divorced now a days. However, if somebody truly is working at a strong relationship, built off a friendship, when (if) the honeymoon phase wears off (it doesn't for EVERYBODY...) they are left with an amazing friend, and someone that they truly love to be with.0