I have been with my husband for 23 years, married 14years, 2 kids, 18 & 13. I totally messed up the best thing that had ever happened to me. I LIED about our financial situation quite a few times over the last couple of years, not to hurt him, but to protect him, he was made redundant & couldn't find work so I used money put away for paying self assessment tax, to pay mortgage & other bills. I never told him at the time, then he found out and was real angry that I felt I couldn't talk to him. I understand. He left me 9 weeks ago saying it was for good, as he didn't trust me. He says he will always be my friend and we will be connected because of kids. There is no more arguing. I found out that he met a woman 2 weeks after leaving, he says its just a 'Shag Buddy'. He told me that he needed time to figure out if he has made the right decision in leaving, and is scared to come back and not be happy. I understand that trust is earned and once you lose it its hard to ever trust again. He has told me to move on if I want, as he not sure how long it will take him to make a decision.I am not ready to move on yet as I am still devastated by how much I hurt him, my kids and the heartbreak I have caused myself. I am seeing a doctor and awaiting an appointment with a counselor, because I am not coping with my emotions at all. Do I wait?
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Look you haven't exactly been that bad in all this, he is making the whole situation look like it's all your fault. What was your crime? Did you sleep with other men? Did you back stab him? Did you steal from him? The answer is NO! All you did was pay the bills and mortgage with your savings, so that you, him and the kids don't struggle. Yes he didn't wanna dip into the savings, but how else could you have survived? I'm sorry to say this but your husband sounds like an idiot. I mean you sound like a woman who wants to preserve her family and do anything to keep it going smoothly until her husband can work find work. The way her reacted is way too much! I mean he leaves you, f**ks another person in the meantime, then leaves you all in a state whilst he is deciding if he can trust you again.
Let me put this straight. He does not deserve you. You deserve a real man who loves you, not some guy making excuses so he can get his leg over some other women. I think the spark has gone in your relationship and he is using excuses. Personally I would say to him that you have a wife and 2 kids, you want a straight answer if he still wants to be with you or not. If not, you will move on. You simply CANNOT hang about for this guy like this.3