If you lived in a perfect world and things all went according to plan, at what age would you prefer to get married? If you are already married, answer based on either what age you wanted to get married when you were younger, or at what age you wish you and your SO had gotten married.
I apologize if your desired age isn't listed, but with the limited poll choices, I tried to limit it to the most common years and eliminate the outliers.
- 20-23Vote A
- 24-27Vote B
- 28-30Vote C
- 31+Vote D
- I don't want to get marriedVote E
Most Helpful Girl
In response to your last two updates:
1. In my view, it's safer for a woman to have a career before getting married. Even if she stops working once she's married, having credentials and experience can help if she has to start working again (e.g. husband loses job/family needs more financial support, or the marriage fails). I live in a town where wives typically don't work, and I can't tell you how many women have struggled when their husbands divorce them in their 50's and they hardly have any experience to get back into the workforce with a salary to support themselves 2+ kids in college. While I'm not saying this is a good plan for everyone, it's definitely something I plan to follow.
You can work on a career while you're married, but at that point women have a household to take care of. Also, a married woman is less likely to get hired or paid a higher salary because many employers assume she'll start a family and won't work anymore. Again this all depends on many factors, but the stereotype is out there. It's easier to work on these things while you're single.
2. This relates to #1. I don't think most women assume a man will control them or abuse them, but you have to be prepared in case they leave. I don't have any statistics but it's safe to say your "90%" isn't recorded data either, especially when the divorce rate for first marriages is 40-50% depending on the source. Therefore, more than 10% of men (AND women) can and will "do that."
Only in specific cases can you blame the woman for not judging a person's character well. After dating for six years and raising four kids during a 20+ year marriage, when the husband has an affair you can't blame the wife for being a poor judge of character. Maybe you can blame her for other things, but you can't blame her for rushing into a marriage or not knowing her husband would be a cheater.
So, I don't think what you've learned is "very interesting" but is instead unfair. Men also have to be cautious of their wives leaving them, but the financial repercussions are typically less severe.0