I see so many kids on this website engaged at 17, 16 whatever. I'm 19 and have been in 2 serious relationships and several less serious relationships, but I've never been engaged. In both my serious relationships we talked about marriage as a future option but we never set a date or really planned on it. My longest relationship has only been 8 months! I feel like I really need to get serious about this but I'm in college and although a lot of guys will commit to having a girlfriend, they're not looking for marriage until they're 30! Both my sisters are around my age and they are in year long relationships. Is this normal that I'm not engaged yet, or on the way to being engaged? I feel like I've only got 10 years left and then nobody will want me.
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You're only 19! There's no need to rush into something that's a life long commitment, at 19 I thought that I knew who I was and what I wanted in life and what I wanted from a relationship but as I got older I realized that that was not exactly what I was looking for. I've had a chance to really get to know who I am and I what I enjoy and what important to me and what I need to have in a relationship and what I can bend on a little. Relationships aren't easy so it's important to really know what you're looking for so that you don't get caught in the moments of puppy love (that's regardless of age) and when honeymoon period ends you realize that you really don't have anything in common and that you've made a big mistake. As far as those guys at college with you saying that they'll get married at 30 well that's all talk. They haven't found that person for them so they don't know what a real relationship is like.
Just give yourself time, live and enjoy life, really think about what important to you and what you're looking for in a relationship and a guy. That way when someone comes along you'll know if it worth a try or to keep it moving. Also I have a friend who didn't get married until she was in her 30's and she has one the BEST marriage I've ever seen, her husband absolutely loves her to death and would do ANYTHING for her. So it just goes to show that you never know when you'll meet that person and you're never too old to be wanted.0