my boyfriend and I were talking about taking a vacation to Finland, but it's really expensive, and I "jokingly" brought up that we could take a vacation there for our 10 year anniversary (of dating, not marriage).
then I slipped in the question of when he would get married, and he said that 30 is his limit (as in he wants to be married by 30 at latest) but it seemed like 30 was a comfortable age for him.
it's weird because in the past we've both agreed that 28 would be the "perfect" age to get married. For me, 30 doesn't work, and I want to be married BY 28. In an ideal situation I would be engaged at 26 so I could have a nice 2 year engagement with no pressure of wedding planning on a tight schedule and just enjoy being engaged. I feel like I've told my boyfriend this before, when we were discussing marriage a while ago.
i'm not really sure what to do, because my first instinct is to bring up to him how 30 is too old, and reinforce my feeling that 26 is a good age to get engaged. but at the same time, I don't want him to freak out because I'm bringing up marriage, or feel pressured (we're both 24 so 26 isn't that far off).
what do I do? what should I say?
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"For me, 30 doesn't work, and I want to be married BY 28."
I think you're obsessing over this a little much. According to your plan, you've got another two years before he proposes. A lot can happen in two years, so stop taking his offhand remark about his (maximum) age so seriously. I'm sure in the next two years, the topic will present itself again without you having to go into freakout mode.
As an aside, there is absolutely no logic in your conclusions that somehow, 26 is a "perfect" age to get engaged, 28 a "perfect" age to get married, and 30 is "too old". That's absolutely the most retarded thing I've heard in... well, months, at least. And I hear a LOT of retarded things.0