I'm sorry this is so long.
My husband and I are both 25 and have been married for 3 years, dated for 1.
He is so perfect. Works hard(plus he is a firefighter, talk about sexiest job on earth). He is a 10/10 in the looks department. Great shape, doesn't have any nasty habits like smoking, dipping exe exe... He helps around the house just to help not because I ask. Shows that he loves me greatly without being clingy. I could go out with the girls till 4am and he wouldn't care at all because he trust me without doubt. And to put icing on the cake he is how do I say OMG in bed. We average sex at least 9-10 times a week. So I have been living on cloud 9 for the last 4 years. So the other day when he was at work I hoped on his laptop to get my FB fix when I found that he was on here,answer-bag, Girls ask Guys, Asking how he gets over his wife's past sex life. WTF? I never knew he felt that way. He never said anything to me. So yesterday when we were laying in bed I told him what I found. He instantly got distant and said its my problem not yours, now leave it alone. So we then got into a fight about him not trusting me with his feeling(which I won haha) and got him to open up. He was never vary open about his past. I thought because he had slept with half of Chicago and didn't want to upset me, but no he's only slept with 3 other woman before me where I had around 20 or so(I was a slut in collage lol) He said he has always felt this way and it caused the break up between him and his ex(shes a slut still anyways). And he didn't want to do that with me, So it was his job to suck it up and deal with it. Now I feel horrible and want to make his pain go away. And he said this is exactly what he didn't want. What can I do to help.
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Ok I just gave you a really long answer and it couldn't submit so I'll have to start over. So, in short, tell him that you're lucky to have him and you're happily married to him. The past is the past so you can't change it but you left that past for a good future with him. His ex is still that kind of girl (sorry I don't cuss) but you're not. What's important is now - that you are not doing it while being married to him. He's is you're only one. So if you're not presently cheating on him, why should it bother him now? Why should that ruin the happy marriage between you two. P.S. Tell me what happens! Maybe we can figure out the next move together. Hope that helps!1
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