The best I can do is say wishy washy because I've been so confused by his words and actions. Anyhow, my boyfriend of 2 years (living together for 1), has really confused me with our future. he's 30, I'm 28. After 6 months of dating, he gave me a 'pre engagement" ring as he called it. I thought it was way too soon for that. So now I've brought up the topic of marriage about 3 times in the last year and every time he gets pretty defensive and tells me he wants to marry me, just isn't sure when. Maybe 5 months, or 10 years. He says he doesn't know. Well, I don't want to give him an ultimatum, at all! But I'm so lost on his telling me one thing and having done another. I do NOT want to wait 10 years. I really don't know what to do at this point. What could be his feelings on this from a guy view? Thanks :)
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Worst case scenario: it sounds like he's happy where things are right now and doesn't want to be committed in case something better comes along. But that's my cynical take :(
Definitely talk to him about it again. You may need to move on if he won't talk to you, because the communication seems to be more of an issue than whether or not he's marrying you (though that is also a big deal).
Try the book "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" by Lundy Bancroft and JAC Patrissi to sort out the specifics.
Best of luck, sweetie.0