Is it a bit too early for my mom to get worried about who (or if) I'll get married to/or will I every marry? I'm 23, btw.
she's acting as if I'm in my mid 30s and like as if there's an expiration date to my marriageability.
her constant worry is actually infectious and I'm getting quite worried as well in regards to when I'll ever have a legit boyfriend (I've never had one ever before).
does anybody else's parent or mom do this to you? isn't it so damn annoying and not to mention quite a blow to your own self esteem?
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Well, there is some truth to the idea that finding a partner worthwhile for marriage is harder to find as you get older, but part of that is that as we age, our priorities in a relationship change.
My mother used to stress about it to some degree, but now at 30 she just wants to me to be loved by someone who truly cares for me.
She used to worry about a whole host of other stuff. But for her it changed after awhile because I'm accomplished in a lot of other things in my life that getting married right away wasn't a priority as I've gotten older.
Would I like to get married? Sure! But you know, I'd also like to retire, and that takes time and work. So I figure I've got the work part down, and now time just needs to evolve. I'll get there when I'm ready, not at all worried about it.
And at some point your mother will not worry about it either, but as you're a daughter and not a son, don't expect it to end anytime soon.
And remember, most parents today still came from a culture where a woman's success was measured by her husband. So, who concern though ill-conceived is merely a product of her life experience, nothing to be offended by.