Earlier tonight I pretty much got my a** handed to me. I come in from work, open the door.
I see my girlfriend, her mom, both her sisters, her dad is walking towards me, and her brother's fist coming from behind the door. My jaw is killing me, hoping my ribs aren't broken.
All of this because they thought I was cheating.
I was really planning on proposing and getting a head start on the wedding planning.
See, for the last two months I've been kind of sneaking around meeting with a wedding planner that a couple of my friends have used. She's the type that likes to meet with her potential clients multiple times before officially working for them. Me and my girlfriend have gone to plenty of weddings over the last two years and at everyone she would "ooh" and "aww" over something. I'd always keep a mental note and later write it down, and at the most recent weddings I've taken pictures of the item(s). So that's why I decided to go ahead an start the planning process and then after I propose let my girlfriend in on my big secret. She could change a few things here and there and then we would just have to worry about picking places and testing things. Got the idea basically from hearing all of my friend's wives complain about how they never help out with anything. I wanted to be better than they were/are. I wanted to give my girlfriend the best, be there for her, show her how much I appreciate her, and to help with the little thing. Now, I don't think that can happen.
After they let up on me and allowed me to talk, I explained everything. I pulled out my phone and flipped to the pics I had one picture of the wedding planner. I asked "Is this the one you saw me with?"(here's the rest of the conversation)
Her Brother: "Yeah that's the f***ing s*** I saw you with, see I told you he was cheating, piece of s***(he kicks me again)
Me: "I didn't cheat and she's not a s*** dumba**"(he kicks me again)
Her Dad: "Then who the hell is she"
Me: "If you let me get up I can show you everything"
Her Dad: "well get up you little b****"
I get up and walk over to the entertainment center reach under her brother runs up behind me. Grabs me by the head and slams my head into the tv. Starts screaming about how I was trying to grab a gun. So tell him to reach under himself there's two folders and a small box.
One folder held all the stuff the wedding planner and I had put together from the collection of things I had remember and taken photos of. Along with samples and other things
The second held possible places to have the wedding and honeymoon spots.
The small box was her engagement ring.
Me: " The sl** you claim you saw me with is a wedding planner, I was trying to get a things going to make it easier for your sister."
After that it was nothing but crying and screaming. She tried so hard to get me to stay. Even now I can hear her saying "please please I'll do anything please I'm sorry don't go".
I guess this is what they meant by nice guys finish last?
- Forgive everything and move foward with the planningVote A
- Just cut all ties and forget the relationship ever happenedVote B
- Get back together but avoid anything that involves her familyVote C
The other half wants her so bad. Even though it was her family who screwed up I want to be there with her so bad so I can stop her from crying to make things better. I mean if you can hear these voice mails there's just so much pain in her voice.
I just don't know what to do
Within five minutes of stepping into my home
1. she didn't trust me at all
2. she completely accepted everything her brother said. I mean hell I didn't even get a text or call asking if I'm screwing around.
3. her family has complete control over her even when she was asking me to stay she still stood with them
4. she was willing to let me get my ass kicked
5. I just wasted nearly three years thinking about our future
Most Helpful Guy
Without a doubt B.
She can never claim to love you if she allowed you too be treated this way. The obvious thing for her to do would be to confront you and ask you if what her brother said is really true. You would then be given a chance to explain yourself and the whole situation would be solved.
They have clearly shown that they hold no love and are completely incapable of forgiveness. Even when there was nothing to forgive in this situation. It still show that they have a dog eat dog mentality.
Some people may come with the excuses that they did what they did because they cared. Behaving psychotic is not a sign of caring. This whole situation could have easily been resolved with no violence or conflict.
I'm sorry you had to experience this.
You still have a chance to get that girl who deserves you. Maybe this was a blessing in disguise. If this situation didn't happen now, she would still be the same person. At least now you know what she's made of. Would you still want her as a wife knowing what you know now? Even if this incident never would have happened?