i'm left confused my sister was dating guy # one for 5 years and they almost got married and it was a priority for her that they got married , she even bought a wedding dress . but they ended up breaking up last year . now she's dating / living with guy # 2 and marriage is no longer a priority or something even being discussed even though there fast approaching the "common law " marriage rule here where if your living for such a time your considered to be married , she's even trying to sell the old wedding dress .
I'm just left confused over the whole thing ? and wonder why she wanted to get married so bad before and why it isn't a desire anymore . is it common to lose interest in marriage if an engagement falls apart ?
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It could be that her priorities changed when the old relationship broke off. Maybe she found that she would rather just be with someone than to spend a lot of money to get married. Marriage can cost a lot, and if their living arrangement is working maybe she doesn't feel the need to get married now.
Marriage tends to be romanticized to the point where some people let it consume them. People want to wow their guests and spend way too much money. Some people spend over 30 grand on a wedding. That's just one day of their lives. With housing costs rising as well as living expenses it seems kind of silly to spend so much on one day. Maybe she realized that after living with her SO.
Selling her old wedding dress seems understandable to me. She bought that dress when she was going to marry her ex boyfriend. It's probably got old memories and she would rather forget it. Besides, she can always buy a new dress if she decides to get married to the new guy. Maybe her taste in dresses has changed as well.
It's hard to know what she is thinking, but the important thing is that she is happy.0