Hold up. Ypu want to hit your wife? That right there proves you need a divorce. You should NEVER want to hurt someone you love. When me and my boyfriend had it rocky, I used to hit him because he'd call me out of my name, but we both stopped because we calmly talked it over like adults. He just turned eighteen and I just turned nineteen. If we can do it, so can you,
If neither of you can come to a calm solution...kids or not. GET A DIVORCE! My parents divorced when I was young, but I do not hate either one for the decision. Itwas hard to accept at first, but I understand why it happened.
It is not O.K. To hit your wife...unless she comes at you with a knife with an intent to kill or she is severely injuring you. If she is hitting you with her fists, make a point to tell her it's NOT okay for EITHER gender to lay hands on the other. It is morally wrong for a man to hit a woman, even if she's hitting him, but it just as legally wrong for her to abuse you. Now if she DOESN'T lay hands on you...then you should definitely get a divorce because you are NOT in love with this woman, you could actually hit her, and then you'd be a lot less than a "Man" if you hit a woman who isn't hurting you... And it will only mentally abuse your kids to watch you guys fight. Kids shouldn't be raised in a home where the father or mother want to harm each other...
Trust me...I am seeing a psychologist because of my father and stepfather, I understand it goes both ways however and that WE READERS ARE ONLY SEEING ONE SIDE OF THE STORY...therefore we cannot be completely aware...but my best advice is...think of your children. They are better off with separated parents than hostile ones. Just think of them, would you really want them to grow up...thinking it's okay to hit women because you accidentally lost your temper with one you're no longer compatible with? Divorce is sad, but domestic abuse is worse. If there is any going on in the home from you or her...just end it if not for you, then your kids.