I have seen so many women on here being called sloppy seconds, hoes, and sluts because they had asked a question about an item of clothing they wanted to buy or a long term monogamous friends with benefits relationship.
How many sexual partners she's had?
The way she dresses?
The fact that she admits to having just a sexual relationship with someone?
I'm not trying to get people riled up... I'm just curious.
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Maybe I'm more level headed about this, but for me, the things that make me not want to marry a girl is pretty much what make me not want to date a girl. If I can't trust her, like she's a liar or way too shady somehow. If she's way too hung up on her ex. If she's cheated before... on anyone, because to me that says she's not very trustworthy. Things like that. I don't care how many guys (and/or girls) she's been with, before me. I don't care how she dresses. I don't care if she's been with other people.
I don't slut-shame just because she was with someone else. That's madness! The past is the past. Especially, since so many of the people who get stupid about that kinds of stuff you listed, are gust hypocrites. I'm betting nearly all of them are. With a few virgin fundies as exceptions. I'm betting nearly all of them have had a few previous relationship, one night stands, the odd encounters where things don't go according to plan.
People like that, are just idiots, hypocrites, and basically just assholes, probably insecure, asking themselves, "Do I measure up?", "was his dick bigger?" or "was he better than me?" and choose instead of letting that crap go, or dealing with the issue, they just project and say things like "sloppy seconds" "ho" "slut" just because of their own petty, weak-willed insecurities. These people are not worth it. Write them off as whatever you want, about as easily as those stupid fucks will likely do to others. They're not worth your time, energy, or tears.
These are my thoughts on it.6