been with my girlfriend for 10 years and I've been wanting to get married for the last 5 but to no avail she tells me that its just a bit of paper and it means nothing.my other problem is we hardly have a sex life and never really had one.its depressing when I see couples making out and being loving,wish I had that :(
she won't talk to me about it she just get angry if I bring up either suject.i know she liked sex with her old boyfriend and told me that she would never change the past even if she could.broke my heart.
so I'm asking what can I do? is she the one for me?
thanks again to everyone :)
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I can't help but feel sorry for you. I don't mean in a mean way, as in I can't believe she's treating you like that after such a long time together.
Honestly, if she's not willing to talk about it, there's not a lot you can do about it. You now have to decide if you think there's something about your relationship worth continuing or splitting up. Splitting up won't be easy cause you've spent the last 10years of your life together, that's a lot of time! But, it may be better for both your sakes, it sounds she isn't happy with your relationship either and I hope to god she's not cheating on you! I find it hard to believe that she's not been having regular sex over the past couple of years, but honestly, if she has any form of respect for you and your feelings I hope she isn't seeing someone behind your back.
I also agree with a of what EvieX said, especially on this: "You need to say to her that whilst you respect that's how she feels, to you, marriage is important. And so if it is truly just paper to her, why would she not be willing to do it because of what it means to you?"
Hope you work something out.0