I've had multiple friends get married/engaged in the last year. The oldest one is 22 years old and they are all still in college. The most alarming thing is that they have only been together with the guy for a few months. I know two that got engaged at 5 months and one at 2.5 months. Why not wait until you are done with college? Or at least until you hit a year with someone?
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I'm having the same experience with most of my friends. I am 23, and most of my friends already have 3 kids, and are common law or married. It's pretty crazy, I am the only person in my group who has an actual career.
Having a family is not bad, and I sometimes wish I had that too, but it's not my time yet. There are so many things I want to do, and if I had a family young, I know I wouldn't be having these things yet. Plus, there are a lot of things my friends wish they could do, but can't because they are settled down with a family.
Most of my friends had babies in high school, so they had to grow up fast. I can kind of see why they are where they are now. They have established themselves to provide for their kids, and had to sacrifice what they wanted a long the way.
Now some of my other friends are just rushing because they want to seem grown up. I worry for some of my friends who rushed into things because they wanted the "wifey" label.
I have friends who are barely able to provide for themselves but they want to get married. I guess some people get swept up in the whole fairy tale of it all. A lot of people put pressure on young people. I get asked all the time if I am married, or when I am getting married. It's like people look down on me for not being married. I'm turning 24 in the summer, but still. I'm not that old, and I want to get married someday, but I definitely don't want to rush it!3