I was just watching Bridezillas and
those women are INSANE! But, the
whole reason they are "bridezillas", is
because they're under this illusion that
it's "there" day. So, I want to know who
Like who decided it's the brides day?
Which is disrespectful and kinda like
a huge "Screw you, your opinion doesn't
matter" to the groom! What about him,
shouldn't he get a say in the matter?
I just never understood the whole "it's
her day" crap. It's stupid! What, is she
going to be playing Erica Durance's character
in the movie I Me Wed, where she marries herself?
If the answer is no, than it's not "her" day! It's
"their" day! Just want to be clear about that.
It's also hard for me to understand, because
I'm not like that. I want to get married someday
(I hope, but we'll see), however I've NEVER
pictured what my wedding day would be like
or how perfect it would be. Or what my dress
would look like or any of that. Because, the
only thing I care about is marrying someone
I love, that loves me back and that all the aspects
of a relationship that REALLY matter, are in
our relationship. All that other material stuff, is
just that, it's just stuff. That's how I feel.
Anyway, if someone could please help
curious girl be less perplexed, that would
be great. Thankies! : )
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I agree with you but quite frankly I see this as an indication of a bigger problem. In general our society has this view that men are too cater to women, but women don't have the same expectation. If you don't cater to women, or do what they want, you are a sad excuse for a man, and a terrible BF/husband. Women are generally not held to the same standard. Society will not frown upon a woman in the same way it frowns upon men, if she chooses not to cater to any of her man's needs.
Part of this I think stems from an early age, when we teach boys to be self sufficient. Even as babies we are more likely to pamper the girls, but make the boys just cry it off and deal with it. We raise boys to take care of their own needs but we raise women to turn to others to fulfill her needs. This is a serious problem that many psychologists are not uncovering and are studying the effects its having on men and society.
That being said, I think weddings are one area were guys don't mind stepping aside. At the end of the day, most guys don't care what your dress looks like, what color the bride's maides dresses, or what the center piece is. I think most guys only care if there tux looks decent, there is plenty of food, and an open bar. So in a sense I think most guys are OK with allowing a wedding to mostly for the bride, simply because she cares more.
Again, I think this generally speaks to the personalities of men and women. Most guys are easy going in life. We don't generally nit pick details and we generally don't care about things that are really important. Most guys aren't going to fight you about the color of the drapes, or which way you put the toilet paper, or what color you want to paint the babies room. This is likely a large part of the reason most girls even comment on this and likewise choose to hang out with men more than other women.
At the end of the day, I would not be happy if my fiance acted like this and I like to think I wouldn't even be marrying a girl who would act like this. All it says to me is she is spoiled and subscribes to the assumption that because she is a girl, she is to be treated like a queen by default, without having to earn such treatment. That doesn't fly with me or more intelligent men. But I do agree that it is a little funny how a the guys opinion is basically ignored. But hey, welcome to the real world, were what men want doesn't matter, only what women feel and want matters. As a guy I guess you just get used to society not giving a f*** about you. That's just the sad truth.2