If I didn't invite my mother to my wedding?
I just got engaged tonight :) Yay! My parents, who are still married, are funding the wedding.
My father and I are really close and I want him there for sure. But my mother genuinely hates me. We have no bond whatsoever. She has told me on countless times in my childhood that I'm nothing but a burden on her and she wished I hadn't been born.
She's not this way with my siblings, however. She's an awesome mother to my sister and my two brothers. But she just really does not like me. And the feeling is mutual. I gave up trying to get some form of relationship with her years ago.
What makes it worse is that when we're around her friends, she's always civil to me and acts like we're best friends, but as soon as we're alone, it's back to the normal bitterness. And if I'm in another room when she has company over, I can hear her complaining to them about me.
I was not a bad kid though. Sure, I was laid back and not a neat freak, but what kid is? I didn't smoke, do drugs, drink, or have sex. I got all A's in school, and worked summers. I was with my fiance for seven years before he proposed so it's not like I did a shotgun proposal or anything.
She's not estranged from me...we've lived under the same roof my entire life. But all I know about her is that when she's around, the stress level in the house skyrockets.
So since she's practically a stranger to me, I don't want her to be there. But my fiancé says that I should let her come since I'm inviting my dad and since she's helping foot the bill of the whole thing.
So..,what are your thoughts?
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It will put your father in a bad position if you don't invite your mother. So for your fathers sake I would invite your mom. She is helping to pay for the wedding, so is kinda entitled to be there. I would just try to avoid her as much as possible at the wedding without looking rude. If she does say something rude to you, then just ignore it. It isn't like you will have to be putting up with her for much longer. Soon she will have no power over you, and you will be able to go years without seeing her anymore if that is what you want. A wedding however is a family affair, and we all need to at least pretend not to hate each other at these types of events.1