Currently I am engaged to a man that up until a few months ago I had all intentions of marrying him. For the past few months I have begun to question what I truly want out of life, and I can't see my fiance in it. We are best friends but I no longer am in love with him, I only love him as a friend. I made a mistake and I cheated on him with a coworker a few weeks ago. I'm still friends with this coworker as well, we see each other almost every day and text most days as well. Even though I do like him I'm not looking for any kind of relationship with him, I just want to remain as friends and we haven't talked about hooking up again or anything like that. I realize that I have to end things with my fiance, I should have never cheated on him and I'm a terrible person for doing so, but its happened and I can't really take it back. Should I tell my fiance that I cheated? I feel guilty, but I'm going to hurt him a lot when I break up with him, I'm not sure if telling him would be a good thing to do. I don't want to hurt him anymore than I will by breaking up with him...
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He deserves to know. You've betrayed his trust and additionally, may have put him at risk for STDs (even if you used a condom, they don't protect against everything). Your partner deserves to make an informed decision regarding whether or not he wants to be with you/marry you. Don't build a marriage on lies.
Be completely honest with him, and if he's willing to forgive you and work on your relationship, you should be willing to do whatever you need to do to gain his trust again---including cutting contact with your coworker.0