This is kind of stupid but ah well.
My boyfriend and I have an awesome relationship and I was totally content with it. Until recently. Recently he straight up told me that we would be married one day. This was not a proposal, mind you. Just him informing me.
Having never thought of marriage yet (we only have been dating for a year and a half) it naturally got me thinking.
So. Now I have a problem. I want to be married now. He brought out the wedding beast in me I didn't know I had. I want to be engaged now. Plan my wedding. And then be married.
But I know logically, it doesn't make sense for us to get married any time soon as we're both still in school (3 years left) and we're not financially stable because we both still live with our parents while we're in school and I'm the only one with a job (minimum wage).
So...now I need to get myself in check and just relax and go with the flow until it happens. But I'm literally bouncing off the walls inside. Chomping at the bit. Going crazy. I just want to go go go. But I have to just be calm...so how do you think it'd be best to calm myself down?
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My guess is you guys have a lot on your plate right now, which is why a wedding and marriage is not the best plan at the moment. You both need to finish school, and hopefully get that first job out of college. A new marriage is stressful enough as it is. You don't want to add the stresses of finances, college, etc.
He may not have the money for a engagement ring, and you've probably brought up marriage a few times. This was his way of telling you to be patient, and wait for him. If you believe he's worth waiting on, and you TRUST he only has eyes for you, then that's about as calming reassurance as you're going to get. Now, if you guys are waiting for marriage before having sex, then I can understand why you're going crazy.
In the mean time, you should be busily preparing for marriage. Working hard...saving money, studying for school, and paying off any personal debt. If you're busy enough, you don't have time to be chomping at the bit, or about to go crazy concerning future things. Good luck.0