My best friend is an attorney. He makes over $380,000 a year. My girlfriend is an administrative assistant. She makes about $38,000 a year. I'm a licensed architect and civil engineer. I make about $94,000 a year.
Offering marriage to someone is, all soft and mushy fluffy stuff aside, a business proposal. Otherwise, nobody is stopping you from just staying together for the rest of your lives and in love. It's a legal entitlement to a portion of our income and assets. Over the long-run, the person who earns more has more to lose, and the person who earns less has more to gain. As a joke, I grabbed by friend and asked him to get married. He laughed in my face, and then told me that it's not "worth" getting married to me, because I would make out like a bandit at the end of the day.
I'm never getting married, but I'm wondering, of the guys who do get married or haven't excluded marriage as a possibility in the future, what's the reason you propose or offer marriage to a girl?
- I'm religiousVote A
- Traditionally, that's what people just doVote B
- I'm afraid if I don't, she'll leave meVote C
- Because it's something she really wantsVote D
- Because it's something I really wantVote E
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I hope that my boyfriend will propose to me because he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. (Not necessarily my current boyfriend, but whichever one I end up marrying). I hope to make at least 50,000 a year in whatever I end up going in to, which is plenty of money for my kind of life style. I'm expecting to marry someone who makes around that, though if it's higher or lower I wouldn't really care (I wouldn't mind being the breadwinner). Marrying isn't just about religion and tradition and sharing finances, there are also legal things that come with marriage (hospital visitation, your taxes change) and if you want to start a family (which I don't) that makes a more stable environment for your child.
Though I'm not a guy, I want to get married because I want that commitment. I want a guy to love me enough that he's willing to stay with me until we're one of those cute old bickering couples that go to the same pizza place each Sunday afternoon. I want the stability of a relationship, knowing that every day when I go home I'll have someone to talk to and someone to share a bed with. I want to always have someone to take care of me when I'm sick and kill spiders for me. And though it would never be my first motivation, I want the financial stability that comes from being a couple, so that if I lost my job or if something happened we would still have money enough not to panic.
Like the guy said before, if there is a large earning gap, sign a prenup to agree that each person keeps their own money. I think you're just too young to think of settling down and too cynical. I'm sure some day you'll meet a nice girl (or guy) who'll charm a ring out of you. At the very least you'll be tired of having to work for sex.1