I looking to see how its developed over a lifespan.
For instance when we were young we either had married parents or divorced parents. And we didn't really know what it ment to be married. Many of us as children, I assume thought it was just something people did when we become adults.
Then we reached our teen years, and had a larger understanding of what marriage entailed.
And finally we became adults and most of us have had maybe successful and not so successful dating experiences. By now most of us have some opinion on marriage -whether good or bad.
So what I'd like to know is how your ideas of marriage changed over time and what caused those changes.
When you were a child what was your parents marital satus and opinions on marriage? Did you like the idea? Did it seem like an expectation you had to live up to? Or did you always hate the idea?
How did you feel about it as a teenager? Did it change for you? What changed it? Your parents relationship statuses? Your own personal experience? Or what you learned about culture, society, and the government?
Now, as an adult, what is your opinion? And why? Do you expect your feelings and opinions to stay the same?
How many people are single or married and somewhere different they than where they always pictured themselves at their current ages?
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I'm going to try to answer all of the questions you asked, so there going to be one after the other starting with "When you were a child what was your parents marital satus and opinions on marriage?" Just clarifying so it doesn't look like random statements.
My parents were married and still are.
I never really thought about it, but I guess so. Though judging by my views now, I'll say yes.
No, not really. It just seemed normal and I didn't feel that it was a force expectation.
I didn't have modern feminist of a mom that made me hate the idea of it. lol
I'd say that, for the most part, I felt the same about marriage as I did when I was younger. I was still very much optimistic, I guess. I thought it was eventually going to happen, but that's as far as my thoughts went then.
As an adult, I go back and forth on the idea. I like the idea of marriage and think it's still a valuable thing in society. I don't buy into the "it's just a piece of paper" ideology. Many things are pieces of paper that we still see as very important, don't we? People talk about how half of all marriages end in divorce, but that isn't true. The stat was over a certain set of years and it found that there was half the amount of divorces to marriages. It was a ratio of 1:2 and somehow that was bastardized. Also, I read an article (around 2010, I think) that said divorce rates are at it's lowest since the 70's. I do think it's a fairly important institution still.
Now, with all that being said, I am very cynical about it. I think people are forgoing love and commitment and going right to sex. You see it all around you. One night stands and friends with benefits. The ones that do get into relationships seem to fall out of "love" just as quick. I don't want to involve myself int those situations, and I don't want to involve myself with people that have/are in those situations. I don't see the point in being with a person like that. That makes my options slim. So I'm fighting with myself because I want that connection with someone, but I know there aren't that many people that deserve that kind of emotion from me. As I've been saying lately, commitment is falling, these and single mothers are rising, and how's that going to turn of for the kids and ultimately society.
Also, someone mentioned the court systems and that's a strike against it as well.
I don't know if my opinions on it will change or not. It's not looking good, but I think everyone should have fluid opinions on things and be able to take in new information and change based on that. It would take helluva girl (and rare to boot) to really change it. Again, I don't think it's looking good.
And sorry for being long winded. Kudos if you read the whole thing. lol1