I have heard it many times: you need to go through a huge fight with your boyfriend before considering marriage, because that shows you that you guys can get through tough times together. I understand the reasoning behind it, but at the same time I find it a bit weird. For example, my boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage recently, and I think he might be proposing within the next year. We never really fight though, we re just both easy going and never really pick fights. I guess there just was never a situation that would cause us to fight. So does that mean we can't be sure our future will work out? That there is a possibility we are only doing well because we haven't faced any big problems together? I just feel like picking a fight just to prove a point is stupid, and it's not like you will just create circumstances to make you get into one - they are either there or not. I also don't want to wait like 5 years to marry someone because I am not sure how they will act in a bad situation. So I am wondering what are your thought: have you been in a relationship with no fights that led to a successful or unsuccessful marriage? Would you marry someone if you have never been through any real tough times with them?
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It's good to know how you two handle conflict but I don't think it's a requirement, some people just get along really well. My boyfriend and I never really fight, we've had a couple of small arguments but that's about it. If you haven't had a big fight it doesn't necessarily mean your relationship hasn't been tested and you should go and pick one just to see what happens. But if you have had a big fight and made it through to the other side then it's definitely a good indicator that you can handle the hardships of marriage.1