I find myself in an interesting position. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We met and started dating about a month later, 3 months later he moved in with me (yes I know its very soon).
He makes me incredibly happy and I know that this has real potential to continue in the same positive light.
Now the problematic part... My job requires me to move to a new country in January. I don't yet know where, but I know I will 100% have to leave. My boyfriend has already said he wants to come with me and we have both agreed to it. He has put things in motion to make sure that once we know where I am being relocated he can start applying for visas, jobs etc. However, his parents have been convincing him that we will have a lot of problems with visas. They are suggesting that we get ENGAGED to assist with visas.
Now don't take this as a question of whether or not I love him because I do and in no way shape or form do I want to break up. But I am simply not ready for a commitment as serious as engagement and I am 100% not comfortable with the idea of making that commitment just to get a visa.
I would prefer to try to get the visa the normal route and if it takes longer I am willing to try long distance. However, I think my boyfriend is very afraid of long distance and as a result will push the engagement idea if the visa applications become to complicated.
What do people think? What would you do in this situation? And most importantly, how do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to use engagement as a way to get a visa even if that means we spend maybe 3-6 months apart.
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You did not state the countries involved.
If you are going on a work visa, you may not be able to obtain a visa for another unless you are returning home.
Simply put, you can not get a fiancée visa in the loop you are describing. If you are going to a very wealthy country you may not be able to have a boyfriend, period. Check your laws and pay much attention to what is called "Moral Turpitude" with reciprocity. Since The USA is an ass in dealing with foreigners, these other countries treat Americans like we treat them. Reciprocity. Moral Turpitude, you say the word "boyfriend" visa application is denied.
Now lets talk about your relationship. You must be married for most countries and he travels as a spouse.
Here is what you do. Your tone is that you don't want to get engaged now, the international law will tell him "no". First you must be a resident of your location, this alone will slow the process because you do not meet that requirement under any circumstance. A foreigner cannot sponsor another foreigner. Then you have your employer issuing documents under one set of guidelines and then you are trying to redirect what is seen as a benefit to another may be seen as a crime.
There are many countries which do not require a visa. If he is staying with you for an extended period of time, he may need to show how he will support himself without a job. Your employer is supporting you not him. He will have to show savings and disposable income. You may not be able to issue an affidavit of support due to your employer and status.