I'm a 26 year old guy (single since 4 years), and I have a close female friend (purely platonic). We're quite frank with each other, and also frequently consult each other for advice. Today, she said something which left pondering what she meant. Her exact words were 'You're perfect husband material, but pathetic boyfriend material'.
A bit of info about myself, which might help you people answer my question better. I never smoke or drink (not even occasionally), don't do drugs and I'm also a virgin (I've firmly decided to hold off sex until marriage). And since I'm a huge animal lover and hate to kill animals, I'm a strict vegetarian and also refrain from using animal products like leather and fur. The last thing is, I never use any kind of profane or foul language in my conversations or writings, not even accidentally. In fact, I can't even remember the last time I used the popular f-word.
Now, can you people please give me your opinions regarding the meaning of what she said? When I thought a bit about it, I felt that she meant I can't be a good boyfriend due to my lifestyle and goody-goody image (because most girls prefer rough and tough type of boyfriend), but I'd make a perfect husband because these are exactly the qualities a woman looks for in her husband. Then again, that is not practically possible because everyone first becomes a boyfriend before becoming a husband. I'm confused. Both men and women are welcome to throw in their opinions.
P.S. Please refrain from saying that I don't know how to enjoy life, or that I've adopted a loser's lifestyle. Those type of discussions are beyond the scope of this question. Please try to stick to the topic. Thank you.
Most Helpful Girl
Well, I think that there's nothing wrong with your lifestyle. Girls do like the bad boy type but still a smart girl likes the good boy. I think you just have to find the right one. Don't change the way you live for anyone especially someone of the opposite sex you may be interested in because it will be weird every time your around them pretending to be someone you're not. You could also ask your friend what she meant if you're that frank with each other.0
Most Helpful Guy
ok, you want answers but you stack the deck against us. she's thought of you as both. clearly. husbands are hum drum, boyfriends are exciting. the only things that you offer up about your personality is that you are super strict, and well, hum drum. what do you do for fun? volunteer at an animal shelter? not a bad thing per se, but hum drum. not using foul language can show a lack of emotion. you've boxed yourself in. how strict are you on being vegen, language/smoking/drinking? for an older woman, or a woman with an 'old soul', you might be perfect. if you are wanting to date/marry sooner rather than later, something' gotta give. I don't know your reasons for celibacy, but kudos.0
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