A friend of mine is getting married. We do are ( or were, or I tought we were) close, before she got engaged we used to talk everyday, go out, have a coffee just to catch up etc etc she got engaged and of course as they decided to get married in a couple of months she was very busy so we didn't meet up so much ( or at all ). I got a message about the bacheleorette party and went, there everybody was talking about the wedding, how toget there etc etc and I still didn't have any information. A couple of weeks went by and I still don't know anything about the wedding. The wedding is tomorrow and I was talking to another friend and told her I am not going as I was not invited. less than half an hour later I got a message from the bride saying she is so sorry but she just found my invite and must have forgot to give it to me, then told me that she and her future husband would be very delighted to have me there if I can make it with such short notice, I sent my congratulations but I am not going. My other friends that are going ( she came from my hometown and in the big city she didn't knew anybody and I introduced her to my friends and found her a job where I was getting promoted, this is the people that are invited to the wedding. She is going to have one with the family when she can go back to her country ) are quite surprised I am not going and ask me if something happened and to try and not be childish about it as is her big day and they are sure she'll want me there when I reply that I wasn't invited they answer it must be a mistake. It sounded fishy to me ( seeing her behavior during the past months after the engagement - the groom doesn't really like me, but never stopped us from going for a coffee or something ) that she found my invite just now, after I talked to a friend that is going. Plus this friend told me she called the bride and asked, while the bride told me she didn't talked with this friend and just realized her mistake. The wedding is tomorrow morning.
Is it normal that I feel so hurt and angry? Has it ever happened to you? What would you do in a similar situation?
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Sorry to hear this :(. It is very normal to feel like this and although it may seem childish I think you did the right thing. Usually with weddings you need to RSVP your invitation so that catering numbers are known and seating arrangements can be done. The manner in which your "invitaion" was found was suspicious. I would just buy them a gift and a card and just wish them well. Maybe your relationship can be repaired later, but right now it is perfectly normal toi want to distance yourself from them.0