It's not his family, they're lovley people, but the country makes me uneasy. From what I understand women have practically no rights there and I think I have reason to be worried.
His dad is from there, his mom is American and they all used to live here until 2 years ago. Keeps saying that his grandparents are wealthy and have a huge house so I'd be safe there and we'd barely have to leave it. Also that as long as I stay with him, there'd be no safer place on earth.
But still, Idk, I just don't have a good feeling about going there. I've also had a bad expierence with the country. I've been there for a day with my parents when I was 12 and some guy just randomly grabbed my (at the time noexiestent boobs). To be fair, we went to the police and they couldn't have reacted in a better way. Still I don't really want to go back. Is that too selfish, should I just suck it up and go with him?
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You realize that there are literally thousands of cases of American women getting married to Saudi's/Iraqi's/Persians, they go with their new husbands to see the Middle East...
And things turn bad. Depending on the nation, husbands can pretty much hold their wives captive, refuse to let them leave the apartment/property, take their passports... I'm two months from getting my Bachelors in Political Science and International Affairs, and it's really shocking what you learn about foreign countries that the press never tells you. Example: did you know that in Saudia Arabia just passed a law making domestic abuse a crime?
Let me rephrase that--legally speaking, wife abuse didn't become a crime until last month. August 2013. I read that enforcement hasn't even been delegated yet, meaning most cops/etc over there will probably ignore it under the excuse they don't have jurisdiction. People say abuse is bad in the United States? Until a month ago, it was perfectly legal in Saudi. Another nice example? Women can't drive legally in Saudi Arabia.
Also, keep in mind how people are affected by the culture. Muslims in the States have to at least abide by certain practices, because Sharia Law doesn't apply here--people can call the cops. Over there? Sharia Law, baby. You also realize--his pals, family, etc, will be a huge influence on him, persuading him to act more like the locals, and less like us evil westerners?
Seriously--don't go. Please, do yourself a favor, and stay where you have legal rights as a human being. Over there? You're literally, and legally, a 2nd class citizen. (Though if you listen to women's rights group, they'd tell you you're legally not a person but property in Saudi Arabia.)4
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