I am a 29 year old woman and I feel like my controlling behavior is immature. How do I learn to go with the flow, and stop trying to control my husbands every move? I have trust issues because he has lied to me many times and hid things from me in our past 5 years of marriage. How do I learn to trust him, and allow myself to feel at ease when he goes places and to believe that he really is where he says he is? I don't like being controlling, I try to stop myself before I begin. But its really hard when he tells me he wants to go to the bars with his friends, I feel like bars are for single people not married people. I know I need to work on trusting him, or our marriage will fail, so any advice on how to do so will be greatly appreciated.
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It isn't your job to trust him. You only have to give him the chance to earn your trust. The rest is up to him. A lot of people wouldn't feel comfortable with their partner hanging out at the bar. If he is the kind of guy that loves going out with the guys at a bar, and you are the type of person that it bothers, then it may be that the two of you just aren't compatible.2