He has very high social status and successful and wealthy. He let his wife run all over him at home even she is not as educated and such. She totally dominates him.
He wants to feel like a man and has a mistress outside. Why would he do that? Can't he just man up at home? After all she is not working and he is the bread winner
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I wish the dynamics of relationships were that simple. Perhaps what is the reality is that he is irresponsible. So rather than her "dominating" him it's more a matter of him having to submit control in order to stay alive else he enter debt and blow all of his money. I don't know his financial history, of course, but generally people who ( presuming you're accurately describing the situation and working with the details given ) seek out this behavior were irresponsible to begin with. Manliness does not come from running things but rather from feeling you make a useful contribution to things. So he knows that other than money he isn't really a necessary element and it bugs him so he goes and elopes with those still dazzled by the prospect of a man of status and wealth without the full knowledge that he's a total child about life in general.
Consider it a form of "Adult Tantrum".0