How do most husbands view their wife physically?
Does their view ever change with age?
How do married couples develop their love for each other as they grow older together?
- YesVote A
- NoVote B
- Let me see the resultsVote C
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Hmm how do married couples develop their love? My parents set a good example for me. They went through hell and back Yet, they are still together, after 30+ years, through all the fighting. My Father confessed that my mother isn't his dream girl. There was a college girl that was goregous, intelligent, compassionate, etc Then there my mother, a poor girl from laos, no education, but he said she gave something that no other woman can. "your mothers drive and patience. Works with my temper."
My mother proceeded
"you see? your father is an a**hole!, If I divorce him I might end up with a bigger a**hole. That is what marriage is about decision and discipline, just seeing the big scope of things. At the end your father, has always been faithful, always growing, improving, and inside I know I am the DREAM GIRL!."
My father ended it with:
"a lot of boys nowadays, are too busy looking for the perfect person vs the person who is perfect for them."
You think about yourself, get to know yourself, build yourself up to be so strong that you are confident that you can handle your own life, that you don’t need anyone, that no one can hurt you without your permission, that you are the master of your own life, and then, you meet someone… who makes you want to surrender all of yourself, without hesitation, when you become ready to lay yourself totally open in front of him/her, all your vulnerabilities, your fears, your dreams, your weaknesses, your wishes and ambitions and principles, things that make you think and feel and wonder and laugh and cry, when the tiniest of his/her unhappiness zoom straight inside your heart, when you feel like bringing the whole world at his/her feet, just to make him/her happy, when you are ready to give him/her all the freedom and right over your life, comfortable in the knowing that the other person is so strong that he/she will honor you, the you that you've opened up, & will never take advantage of your openness… will care for you because he/she wants to, not because it’s supposed to be that way, when adjustment doesn't feel like adjustment, when you willingly make yourself flexible for his/her sake, when the freedom between you makes your relationship stronger, when both start feeling that you need each other, not because you lack something, but because of how much both of you enjoy being part of one another’s lives, & both of you want to practically take it forward,
That’s love for real.
I’m not quite “learned” enough to “profess” anything, but yes, I feel love is learning to love yourself, knowing that you are strong enough to survive anything life throws at you, and then finding someone who you don’t mind being vulnerable with, because you trust him/her enough, and you are comfortable enough to shed all ego barriers. Just like my parents...
Sadly, there are no guarantees, not everyone grows together. We can only try our best whichever way life takes us3