My boyfriend is the same way! He would talk about it before, now he just avoids the subject. It's hard not to bring it up when EVERYONE you know is either getting married or having kids. I think when they realize things are getting to that point they take a step back and reexamine everything. Well, that's what I've been told by other guys. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and as far as we've gotten is living together. But your boyfriend got burnt once, maybe he's afraid it will happen again. Plus you said he started a new job and that might be a lot of stress on him.
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It's only a year and three months! If you're not engaged, no need to talk about marriage. Focus on your relationship not a legal bond tied to a piece of paper. You're probably freaking him out. ESPECIALLY because of his ex.
I don't understand why women care about marriage so much. Lighten up!
This often happens after the excitement and newness of a relationship gets older. He is complacent as he is getting his pussy, you and still no real responsibility that marriage brings into it.
He might just be finding out the truth about marriage,and he may not be ready for that.
Marriage is the surest way to kill a woman's sex drive and end a man's sex life.The more secure the marriage is,the more likely it will happen.
At least 50% of women will despise their husband within 4 years of marriage,and they're likely to be looking for a divorce at about 8 years.Most of these women won't know why,and can't give their husband a reason for it.
1/2 of those women will be cheating at about 5 years.
Maybe he doesn't feel lucky,or feel it's worth the risk.
We can't change or modify others unless they want to be changed or modified. If he doesn't (or no longer does) act like the father of your future children, you have a duty to let him go. One set down and talk session is in order. If he evades you, you have your answer. And sex is a reward by a woman for a stable, committed relationship. If he no longer gives you one, sex needs to stop. If he complains about that but remains unwilling to open up to you about why his treatment of you has changed, it's time to go.
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One of my closest friends is getting married this year, and I'm a bridesmaid. This has really sparked marriage talk with my boyfriend, even though I know that we can't get married soon since we're not financially stable. I haven't noticed him getting annoyed with me talking about marriage, and I bring it up basically every other day.
I think your boyfriend thinks it's too soon for marriage, and he might feel anxious about it. IT doesn't mean he's cheating.Most girls your age do get marriage fever, you see your friends doing it, so you want to do it.
He likely doesn't want to make the same mistake he did with his ex; he wants to be sure.
It's only been a little over a year. Focus on having a healthy relationship and enjoying it. Don't let the pressure of marriage ruin it.Yeah, the ex thing could have something to do with it.
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