My boyfriend and I are very close. We are going on a year and three months. We used to talk about having kids and getting married all the time. He has always made an effort to do things for me and be very sweet and kind. Lately though, there seems to be something else going on. Whenever I bring up marriage, he quickly changes the subject or makes an excuse. First, he wanted to get engaged before we get a house together, then it was two years. Now he has pushed the time back to 3 and a half years at least. All of my friends are getting married, and he says I have engagement fever. I just tell him it is something to think about because we have been together and we should at least be able to talk about it. He just gets mad or ignores when I try to talk and falls asleep on me. He has also been acting a lot different too. Like for the first time ever he wanted to have sex in the dark. He also wanted to come inside me which he has never wanted to before. I am on birth control but he has always made an effort to pull out. He did start a new job so maybe that is bothering him too. He just doesn't seem as lovey as usual and seems like something is bothering him. He says I've been acting different Because I keep talking about marriage because all my friends are getting married. The only other thing I can think of is he constantly talks about this girl at work he works with. I know she is married though and he says she's fat. I really hope he isn't cheating on me. We live together and I never see texts on his phone or anything. Can marriage talk make a man act differently? Only other thing I can think of is his ex pushed marriage and he got engaged to her then she broke up with him. Could that have anything to do with it either?
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We can't change or modify others unless they want to be changed or modified. If he doesn't (or no longer does) act like the father of your future children, you have a duty to let him go. One set down and talk session is in order. If he evades you, you have your answer. And sex is a reward by a woman for a stable, committed relationship. If he no longer gives you one, sex needs to stop. If he complains about that but remains unwilling to open up to you about why his treatment of you has changed, it's time to go.1