My sister told me today that after she and her fiance get married, she is planning on staying at home. They never plan to have kids. He's already had a vasectomy because neither want children. She hasn't told him yet, which is why she was telling me. She wanted me to tell her how to tell him what she plans to do.
I completely disagree with her deciding to just stay at home and not work. I'd have no issue with it whatsoever if they were having kids, and she was going to be a stay at home mom. She just wants to be a stay at home wife while he works.
I couldn't give her advice since I don't agree with her decision. But I decided (and I am going to let her read this) to ask on this site how men would feel about this option. I get the feeling her fiance won't be too happy with the decision considering he has issue with stay at home moms past the one year maternity leave. So I doubt he'll like her decision.
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She hasn't told him this and they are getting married? That's not good. Marriage should involve communication. She needs to be honest with her fiancée about her decision to stay home after getting married.
She can't just spring it on him after they get married. He has a right to know what she plans to do. And it should be a joint decision between the two.
I agree with you, if I wasn't having kids, I would probably want to work. I mean, if her husband was wealthy enough that they didn't need the money then fine. But what is she going to do with herself while he is at work? You can only cook and clean so much before you start to go stir crazy.
I'm not really one to judge, perhaps she has a bunch of hobbies she wants to do? Heck, I would love to be a stay at home wife, but I would have kids to take care of though. And I would be doing lots of hobbies, like gardening, repairing things at home, taking care of pets, basically keeping myself pretty busy.
But I probably won't because it's hard to only live off one income.0