I am in a real quandary over my relationship at the moment, and wonder whether I should fight for it, or just walk away?
My wife and I have been together for almost 10 years, married for 7 years, and have 2 children together. The problem is that I feel she has changed so much in the last few years, that I'm unsure as to how I feel about her now.
Since June, I have been a househusband, and for this I understand that there would be an expectation to do the housework, etc. but I have ended up doing literally everything. I prepare my eldest for school, prepare my wifes lunch, take my wife to the railway station, take our eldest to school, do the housework at home whilst looking after our youngest son, pick up our eldest, prepare dinner for us all, bath the kids and put them to bed, and then clean up from dinner. At the weekends, she sleeps in until midday, when I usually wake her up with breakfast in bed. All of her spare time is focused on her friends, either through Facebook, Whatsapp or social engagements. I just feel like there is no time for me, and certainly no appreciation for what I do.
Also, our sex life has become very routine, in that it is always in bed at night, and always follows the same pattern of kissing and touching for a few minutes before she undresses quickly and either pulls me on top or gets on top of me, for a few minutes of intercourse. She won't let me go down on her, won't let me touch or kiss her breasts, and moves back to missionary or girl on top if I try to change position.
We had a big argument about 6 months ago where all of this came out, and I have commented on her 'Friend/Phone time' quite often, but nothing has changed.
Should I continue the fight, or is it time to walk away?
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I really don't think you have reason to leave this marriage.. This sounds like something many couples go through.. Like a phase where everything is overwhelming and you feel unnoticed. Think about one day when your children are grown and you have more time. Maybe right now the schedule is too much for you. Maybe you should talk to your wife about you finding a hobby or a part time job and then she will feel more responsible for picking up some slack. Even as a stay at home parent I believe that the other parent should share house work.. I mean, why do you need to make her lunches? Why wake her with breakfast in bed.. How about she wakes up midday on the weekend and you're out for a jog.. why are you waiting around to serve her? Do you have a separate social circle? If not, then make one. Find some support groups for stay at home parents. If there are none that you can physically join in your area then search online. Trust me you are NOT the only man who is going through something like this. And just like a lot of other commenters said.. There are a lot of housewives that feel the same exact way. I have been a full time nanny for the last 7 years and let me tell you... I wouldn't do this if I didn't get the cash on Fridays or have my other nanny friends that I can vent to.3