This is a subject I don't understand.
Why would a happily married man have a six year affair then tell the mistress all about his perfect family life and how he loves and cares for his wife and they get on incredibly well.
They post pictures of them together as a couple, celebrating all special occasions and as a family on Facebook but when asked he says he has to make her and their families believe he is in love.
They take wonderful family holidays together and even go away a couple of weekends a year just the two of them.
When he talks about his wife I truly believe he's in love with her and he's just forgotten but when asked that he should stop the affair to work on his marriage he says he doesn't want to work on his marriage?
His relationship with his mistress confuses me too they have done a lot together - trips to Wimbledon centre court, St Andrews, Safari Park, Spa Days, Alton Towers he even bought her an eternity ring at Christmas and drove 400mile round trip to pick her up for a dinner/dance because all the trains had been cancelled! He says he loves his mistress.
Why would a seemingly very happily married man do all this? Why not stop the affair and just continue in his happy life?
The mind boggles to be honest!
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They want to eat their cake and have it too. They want to keep a wife by making her think that they're in a happy and monogamous relationship, while at the same time have a mistress (preferably younger) to prove to themselves that they're still desired sexually by others. Yes, it's very much an ego thing. A lot of cheaters also cheat because they love the thrill it gives them. They enjoy lying and going behind other people's backs. They like the power they get when they manage to fool others into believing that everything is perfect and normal. Hence, all the Facebook posts and pictures. The things he posts on Facebook simply enhances the thrill. He is successfully fooling everyone in his friends list, and not only his family and his wife. It's definitely a thrill.
Also, from what I've noticed, people who cheat aren't really all that happy. It might seem like it, but in reality they're just fooling you there too. They often feel like something is missing, which in turn makes them want to fill that hole with whatever they can find. Mistresses, expensive vacations/gifts, "acts of love" etc. That's why he keeps doing it. He's not happy, he's not content, and this is his shitty way of dealing with it.2
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