two questions for christians about marriage. and forewarning, this is based on what I've heard in sermons a lot.
a lot of churches preach how p*rn is adultery, because "whoever looks at a woman with lust has committed adultery already in her heart." and adultery is grounds for divorce simple, right?
though I doubt they had p*rn shows back then, so Jesus literally meant, if you look at a woman with lust, you've committed adultery in your heart.
So literally, that means that according to the Bible, if I just got married, and me and my new wife go to the pool--if she glances at some bodybuilder with a perfect figure and feels lust, she's committed adultery and I am Biblically fine divorcing her? And that means that marriage can justly end in divorce, according to the Bible, after one glance? I mean, I always thought that adultery needed some sort of sexual involvement, or probably at least kissing, but according to what I've heard preached, if your spouse just makes one glance at an attractive member of the opposite sex, you can divorce them, because they committed adultery.
second, given how high divorce rates are and how horrible divorce typically is for any man that makes decent wages, wouldn't it be fine, according to the Bible, if when you got married, you just had a religious ceremony, instead of legally getting married with a marriage license and such? As long as you were married by a pastor, made vows to God, etc? Just didn't legally involve the state?
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You do know that women don't get married to please God, right? They get married for the legal surety that government intervention provides.1