I see and hear about long-term couples or married couples just falling out of love with each other, I'm scared because it seems like people will claim to really care about each other and then as soon as the newness/"spark" and excitement inevitably wears off over time, they just decide they don't love eachother anymore and leave, then find someone new they have the "spark" with (only to fall out of love with them over time as well) and just do the same thing over and over again. I feel people have unrealistic expectations of what love is and that is a main reason why I don't really ever wanna get married, I don't want to invest years of trust, friendship, closeness, etc. into someone only to have them say they're not in love with me anymore. Heck, I'm scared of being in relationships in general for this very reason. Is this true?
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Not all couples fall out of love, but you're correct that most have unrealistic expectations. Many girls I've known want that "knight in shining armor" or to be "swept away." It's a nice concept, but we all know that's not how it works in real life. I feel love evolves over time. What starts out as "puppy love" or "the honeymoon stage" eventually becomes a deeper, more real kind of love. And it takes both people committing to making a situation work, meaning both are ready for that kind of responsibility. In fact, TRUE love involves attraction on all levels, trust, admiration, support, laughter, shared experiences, and building a life together. There are many more qualities than that, but those are the key ones. No one can expect to feel the same way after several months/years that they did in the first month or two. Plus it takes a long time to know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. I've been in love three different times, but none of those relationships lasted. However, with experience and age I've learned much more about what it takes for a situation to work. Plus my parents are still very much in love after 37 years, so not a bad example to learn from!2