Is it becoming a trend that couples are having children before marriage or is it just me? What does everyone think about it? Couples like Ashley Simpson and Pete Wentz, or Maggie Gyllenhaal and Peter Sarrsgaard. What do you think about them? Or just couples having children before marriage? In the past, the children were considers bastards, does anyone still believe that?
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People are no longer forcing themselves to get married when they get pregnant is all. It's becoming socially acceptable to wait for marriage until you're ready, even if babies are in the mix. My cousin is the perfect example: she just had her second child, at 25. Now, she was married the first time, all for the child, and it ruined the relationship, what little of it there was. She wished she had just stayed single, even though there had been an "accident." This time, though, she and her guy were living together when she got pregnant, and they decided to wait on marriage, as neither are ready to go down that road. But that didn't mean they would get rid of the baby in any way.
I think, ultimately, it is a good thing. I've seen many couples marry because of children, and it generally turns out bad. Sure, I think that we should wait on children until we know that is the person we want to be with for the rest of our lives, but it doesn't work that way a lot of the time, and I'm cool with that. Whatever people decide is best for them and their little family, however it is put together.
And marriage doesn't mean they'll be more suited to raising kids. My parents were married before I came along, and they still crashed and burned, mainly because they just weren't suited for each other at all.0